TODAYS MESSAGE IS BEING BROUGHT TO YOU ALL BY MARCUS D KING MINISTRIES....He is the Pastor of Johnson Community church in Dallas,TX. A highly blessed young Pastor with a gift to tell it like it is! be blessed as you read this word that will open your eyes and quench your thirst.
Love you all... Ms. Joy
Single or Married? (Part 1)
I Corinthians "I want to free you from the concerns of this life. An unmarried -34
man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But
a married man has to think about earthly responsibilities and how to please his
wife. His interests are divided."
There used to be a time not long ago where you would get an option of how you wanted
to leave the grocery store on your way home that evening. They would ring you up
and simply ask, "Paper or Plastic?" The decision you made about which to choose
was mostly based on how much usage you could get out of the bag long or short term.
At the end of the day, both served their initial purpose of simply getting your
goods safely together to your vehicle and into your home. You would not be concerned
about your goods that were valuable to you falling on the ground and becoming ruined
right before your eyes because you felt what you chose would protect them and keep
them together. You thought they would be stable enough.
Remaining single or getting married are options God allows us to choose between
in life. There are consequences for either choice, but we need to make the decision
we believe God wants us to choose at that time. There are goods inside of us, and
if we choose to let the wrong person handle them they could utterly end up on the
ground right before our eyes broken and fragmented needing restoration and healing.
That's why it is very important for us to understand what God says through the Apostle
Paul about singleness and marriage.
1. "I want to free you from the concerns of this life."
Paul early on let's us know that both marriage and singleness are "gifts" not "curses"
from God. (I Corinthians 7:7) Maybe you haven't enjoyed your gift because you haven't
opened the box yet! However, many individuals are all tied up and worried about
trying to get married or get divorced. Marriage is only for the earth. There is
no marriage in heaven. That is only a concern for this life. God wants us not to
worry over things in this life. If it happens, it happens. Free yourself. Don't
make it happen if God didn't approve it for you. Worry doesn't make time, it wastes
time. It's a battle in your mind, but do battle.
2. "An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to
A single man has time to focus on growing in the Lord, utilizing his gifts, talents
and abilities to bring more souls to the kingdom. He is free to move and go about
as he pleases. However, if he is spending all of his time focusing on pleasing himself,
he is wasting his single life and will be hell to deal with when or if he gets married.
If he doesn't use single time for growth, giving, goals and God then he will be
more selfish, unfocused, stagnant, and an immature person spiritually. "DOING THE
LORD"S WORK must be included while you are making money as a single. Enjoy your
freedom, but make sure you aren't single in status but bound in spirit to the wrong
things. That can be dangerous.
3. "But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to
please his wife."
If a single man gets married, he now must realize he is not just focused on himself.
He no longer is responsible just for himself. He now has "earthly responsibilities."
Part of the responsibility, a major part, is "how to please his wife." If he spent
no preparation time before marriage understanding what a husband is, what a wife
is, how to please her while he was dating her before marriage, he will struggle
greatly in this area. If he marries a woman who does not really know what it means
to be a wife, his job is intensified! If his wife is not spiritual and doesn't like
church or growing in Christ, it just became ten times harder. However, that is part
of his responsibility now. No need in belly aching. Get on your job. It's too late
now to want someone in Christ now that you recognize Cute wears off!
4. "His interests are divided."
The responsibility of marriage is this for a man. The focus, attention, freedom
you had in Christ to give him your everything is tempered when you are not married
to someone who has your same desire for him. You have to please her and please Christ.
That means you can't please Christ without pleasing her because you are to love
her like Christ loved the church. That also means, your first ministry now is at
home. If she is more focused on houses, cars, clothes, trips than serving, growing,
tithing, sacrificing and the like, she's still yours. And yes, the rule still applies
for loving her like Christ loves the church. Your interests are "divided." If she
is growing with you, life can be great. If she is not, it can be gruesome.
So my friend, stay single or get married? If you are married...stay single or get
married again? Either way, make sure you read the fine print and take responsibility
for who you choose. Choose responsibly.
Scriptures: I John 4:7-8, Ephesians 5:21-33, Matthew -34
Prayer: Dear Jesus,help us to appreciate the state you have allowed us to be in.
If married, thank you. If single, thank you. Help us see the gift in either situation
so we can celebrate the gift. In Jesus' name I pray, amen.